Last week, we put out a call to females to discuss their positions on women in leadership. We asked in particular about financial services and politics and whether or not women are being sufficiently recognized for their work. While most of the responses were not very surprising, we were quite amazed at the feedback from one of the respondents.
“Women have a natural inclination to remain in the background and tend to place respect above recognition and I am fine with that“
“Women have a natural inclination to remain in the background and tend to place respect above recognition and I am fine with that“, she stated.“The fact that local women in this industry by and large are earning more than their male partners is a huge problem for family life”, she very emphatically declared.
She felt that it was already a challenge that women in the financial services industry were earning more than their partners and to declare or request more visibility would just pose an even greater challenge to the survivability of relationships
As we continued the discussion, she went on to share that boys were already at a disadvantage in the school system, with more attention being paid to girls and that if we did not stand back as women, this dilemma will transcend yet another generation.
There is no doubt that she’d thought long and hard about this and as she said, she’d had a recent epiphany. “Even the extra curricula activities cater more to girls than to boys and this is a problem,” she further lamented.
My challenge to her was, what if men in their position of leadership were simply not performing, or not at a level that would sustain the family? Should the woman still stand down and underperform, just to save face? Should a woman dumb herself down so to speak to save a relationship while all else fails?
Should a woman forego her natural talents to be great, build and develop, nurture and create, because somehow, the system has failed our men, or should women strive for greatness, allow their light to shine and whom ever wishes to benefit from their leadership may do so?
It is true that we have been taught that the man is the head of the household, however, that should not be a deterrent to a woman believing that she could be head and striving to the highest level of achievement. Women after all have always been nation builders, bankers, warriors, however, it seems that someone took it upon themselves to attempt to change “ourstory” only to history.
"As a matter of fact, a nation can only truly fully realize its full potential if all hands are fully on deck"
Women deserve the right to claim their rightful places in society. As a matter of fact, a nation can only truly fully realize its full potential if all hands are fully on deck, men and women, together realizing their strengths and weaknesses and working collaboratively to the benefit of the entire nation.
There are too many bright female minds available that can offer solutions to the myriad of problems that we face, rather than go unheard. Men alone cannot solve the plethora of problems that confront us.
My response to the lady, who is truly doubtful and very concerned about the attention not granted boys, is to incentivize more strong young men to become teachers and principals in the school system. Strong young men with proven leadership skills, who will not be afraid of a strapping 14-year-old boy, who sees a female teacher as a nuisance.
Just as young girls can attribute their successes to the great female role models in their lives, so too, young boys need positive, strong male role models to emulate.